"23 Pieces of Advice for the Struggling 20-Something"

I'm in thoughtcatalog overload. Turns out being absolutely aimless in life can hook you onto things that you should stay far, far away from. If I were a sane, logical, smart person, I wouldn't be living my life according to thoughtcatalog. It seems 20-somethings are the perfect target audience for list-y articles full of wise-sounding advice about 'the future'.

Reading these articles as a struggling 20-something myself, I can confidently say that they scare the living shit out of me. Mostly because there isn't much I'm worried about. But I read one list and then I read the recommended links and soon I'm sitting on the floor trying to ferociously plot out my life and not let the universe get the better of me.

Damn you thoughtcatalog, daaaaaaaaamnn youuuuuuuu!!!!

"OMG, Did He Just Unfriend Me?"

These days there are various ways and portals to get dissed, and it just happened to me thrice over. My phone number has been deleted, I have been unfriended on Facebook, and unfollowed on Twitter.

One of my best-est friends has outgrown our friendship, and as much as I made him believe I understood his reasons for not wanting to know me anymore, I wish I had told him how disappointed I was, just so that he couldn't get away with zero guilt. Remember, people: someone you love decides to hurt you willingly, please do not let them get away without letting them know exactly how idiotic they are, so that they will always remember it. They deserve the pain way more than you, and if they can put themselves before the friendship you have all the right to wish guilt upon them.

I can only imagine how I would have felt and reacted had this happened 4 years ago (when it comes to school friends I always end up reliving). Probably lots of crying and chocolate and bitching to at least 5 different friends (yeah...I used to actually call people up back then, I'm an anti-social chicken now).

But now, what did mature, college-going me do? I scoffed. And said "Ok, have a nice life" to his facebook timeline which, for the first time in 6 years, said "Add as friend."

:)

I cannot help but be proud of how much I've grown in these 4 years of college life, however self-obsessed that sentence may sound. I'm usually pretty hard on myself and there are few things that make me feel like a decent human being, and this is one of them.

Love,
Kanika